In refection, I have come to appreciate the one thing that can give solace when things fall apart. There so many life events that can bring chaos. However, for me, there is a safe guard. To some, it may be too simple, or trite.
This safeguard is when I can curl myself into someone’s hug/embrace. Alternatively, when my dog knows that I am in stress, and leans into my body, soft and gentle as if to say, “It’s okay, I am here.” It reminds me of being the equivalent to a human hug.
For me, nothing on earth, can “medicate” as a well- meaning, “comfort hug” from a friend, or unconditional love from my angel with a fur coat.
My friend, Sandra B. is leaving tomorrow to relocate in Belize. She is the one who took me in, when Zen and I were homeless; letting us sleep in the only space she had available, of which was in her garage. It was a period of time in my life that everything was topsy-turvy and chaotic. It was not knowing if I would be able to cope and survive from one day to the next. At times, I became overwhelmed.
However, the safeguard was present. I had the security to simply go upstairs, walk over to Sandra and hold out my arms. She would wrap her loving arms around me and hold me with perfect timing until I felt safe again. She is a “Master of a Comfort Hug” indeed!
I saw her last night, thanks to another friend who shuttled me to where Sandra was staying. My van is not feeling well these days.
Sandra and I got to visit, and then for the last time, she embraced me for our final hug. I may never see her again. However, I am so happy for her, as she is about to live her dream. But, then again, a solace will be absent from my life, in a way that only she can provide as a “Master of a Comfort Hug!” Yes, I have other friends who hug quite nicely!
I highly recommend you reaching out to a loved one or friend and let them know how much they matter in your life. A hug always suffices quite nicely.